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Lifting Hard but Still Soft? How Sidney Found Definition
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Sidney is a mom of two young kids and a therapist with very little free time. She never struggled with her weight, but as she got closer to 30 she felt her metabolism slow down. Her clothes got tighter and she stopped feeling comfortable in a swimsuit. The number on the scale wasn't what bothered her. It was how her clothes fit.
She joined a gym and lifted five or six days a week with no cardio, and she was already logging calories in MyFitnessPal. She felt stronger, but a layer of fat still sat over the muscle she was building. After starting WarriorBabe she switched from tracking calories to tracking macros. She added some cardio at Nikkiey Stott's recommendation and followed the plan, and the definition finally showed. In her words, the muscle was under there and she just had to discover it.
Sidney also shares what keeps her going on tired evenings: pep talks, Nikkiey's mantra to squeeze her muscles, doing the program with her husband for accountability, and meal prep, which she says has made life much easier. Her goal changed from being skinny to being strong enough to keep up with her kids.
Key takeaways
- Sidney found that keeping her calories in check in MyFitnessPal wasn't enough, and she only saw muscle definition once she started tracking her macros.
- Lifting five or six days a week made her feel stronger, but she still had a layer of fat covering her muscle until her nutrition changed.
- She added some cardio at Nikkiey Stott's recommendation, which she had skipped before because she hated it, and saw tremendous results.
- On tired evenings she gives herself a pep talk and repeats Nikkiey's mantra to squeeze her muscles during each exercise.
- Doing the program with her husband lets them explore it together and hold each other accountable.
- Starting meal prep made her life much easier, and both she and her husband love it.
- Her goal changed from being skinny to being strong enough to lift and keep up with her two kids.
Questions answered
Why wasn't I seeing muscle definition even though I lifted weights most days?
Sidney lifted five or six days a week and felt stronger, but she still had a layer of fat over her muscle. She was only tracking calories, not macros, and did no cardio. Definition showed up once she ate according to her macros, added some cardio and followed the plan.
Is counting calories enough to get toned?
For Sidney it wasn't. She used MyFitnessPal for about six months just to keep calories in check and didn't think macros would make a difference, but she only started seeing definition after she began eating the way her plan laid out.
Does metabolism really slow down as you approach 30?
Sidney says that in her experience it did. As she got closer to 30, her clothes got tighter and she felt less comfortable, even though she had never struggled with her weight before.
How do you stay motivated to work out in the evening when you're exhausted?
Sidney gives herself a pep talk, reminds herself that the workout will give her more definition, and repeats Nikkiey's mantra to squeeze her muscles. She also counts each finished session as one more workout done.
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Sidney: Hey everyone, my name is Sidney. I am a mom of two. I have an almost six-year-old and a seven-year-old. I am a therapist, so my time is pretty limited.
For the most part, I have been working out since roughly January. That was my goal. I've never really had a problem losing weight or staying thin. But everybody said the closer you get to 30, the more you're going to have to work out. Your metabolism will slow down. And that's no lie. It really did slow down.
So I started noticing that my clothes were fitting tighter. I wasn't comfortable anymore. I hated wearing a swimsuit. And those weren't ever things that really bothered me before or anything that I really struggled with. So I got a gym membership. I was dead set. I was going to get back to a comfortable level. It's not even the number on the scale, honestly, that bothers me. It is just the way my clothes fit.
So I started going to the gym five, maybe six days a week. I was lifting. I was not doing any cardio because I hated cardio. But I really wasn't seeing the results that I wanted. So I was looking for something more. And I saw a picture of Nikkiey on the ropes, and I was just like, that is the body that I want.
It's no longer about just being skinny for me. It's about being strong with two kids. There's a lot of lifting. There's a lot of stuff that goes with that, just trying to keep up with them. And I was getting worn out just walking from my chicken coop to my house. And that was not acceptable for me. So I wanted to make a change.
And it was free for seven days. So I thought, if nothing else, it's just something I can try. And if I don't like it, then I don't like it. But I love it. I love all of the recipes that she gives you. I love the workouts. I even have my husband doing it. So it's something we get to explore together and hold each other accountable. And that's awesome. The Facebook group has been so helpful.
I had heard a little bit about macro counting, but I had never really done anything with it. I have used MyFitnessPal for about six months, and I basically just used it to keep my calories in check. I wasn't really using the macro counter on it. I wasn't really even thinking that that would make a difference. And I was getting my calories. That wasn't a problem. But I just wasn't seeing the muscle definition for as much lifting as I was doing. I wasn't seeing the results. I felt stronger, but I still had this layer of fat. And that's just not acceptable for me. I wasn't comfortable with that still being there.
And since starting WarriorBabe, I've added in some cardio per Nikkiey's request, and I have seen tremendous results. I have seen definition. And yeah, I love the workouts. But my muscle was under there. I just had to discover it. So by eating the way I was supposed to be eating and doing the cardio and just following the plan, I have really started to see the muscle definition.
And it's really exciting because I challenge myself each time that I go to the gym. I have to give myself a pep talk because most of the days I'm exhausted by the time I get to the gym. It's the evening time. I've had a long day. So I have to tell myself, this is going to give you that more definition. And I just have her mantra in my head: squeeze your muscles so that way it defines everything. And I just have to keep telling myself these things, and it gets me through the workouts. And at the end I'm super excited because it's one more workout that I've done.
And I just recently started to meal prep, and that has made my life so much easier. My husband and I both are loving it.
So I definitely think if you are wanting to gain muscle, gain definition and lose some fat, this is a really, really easy program to follow. It seems complicated at first, but it's really not. So give it a try. If nothing else, do the seven-day trial and just see what it's all about. All right, guys. Have a great day. Bye.
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