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If you're in menopause and walking, yoga and cardio videos aren't changing your body, Nikkiey Stott explains why. In her view, estrogen was quietly supporting your muscle behind the scenes. Once that support is gone, you lose muscle every year while the scale stays the same. The only way to reverse it is to build that muscle back.
She walks you through the six compound dumbbell movements she says every woman whose body changed was doing: goblet squat, Romanian deadlift, bent over row, overhead press, chest press and hip thrust. For each one you get the setup, the form cues, the sets and reps, and how to tell whether the weight is heavy enough. Then she puts them into a simple A/B split, three days a week, 30 to 45 minutes a session, with walking on off days and progressive overload as the rule that makes it work.
She closes with Johanna, a 62-year-old WarriorBabe member with two total knee replacements. Johanna is lifting and building muscle, and she says she feels stronger and more confident than she has since her 20s.
Key takeaways
- Do six compound movements that cover push, pull and legs: goblet squat, Romanian deadlift, bent over row, overhead press, chest press and hip thrust.
- Pick a weight where the last two to three reps of each set feel hard but not painful, and go heavier once you can do 12 reps without struggling.
- Split the six exercises into two workouts: A is goblet squat, bent over row and overhead press; B is Romanian deadlift, chest press and hip thrust.
- Alternate the two workouts three days a week for 30 to 45 minutes, since all six in one session is too much volume and your form breaks down.
- On off days, walk 7,000 to 10,000 steps for recovery, mood, insulin sensitivity and sleep, not for calorie burn.
- When you can't go heavier at home, use tempo training: three seconds down, a one-second pause at the bottom, three seconds up.
- Keep your back flat on Romanian deadlifts and your ribs down on overhead presses, and drop the weight if your back rounds or arches.
- Train your upper body as well as your legs, because rows and presses change your posture, your shoulders and how your arms look.
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Questions answered
Why is my body changing in menopause even though the scale hasn't moved?
Nikkiey explains that estrogen was supporting muscle protein synthesis, and after menopause you lose roughly 1% of your muscle per year. Muscle gets replaced by fat, so you can weigh the same and still look completely different.
What are the best exercises for women in menopause to build muscle?
Nikkiey recommends six compound dumbbell movements: goblet squat, Romanian deadlift, bent over row, overhead press, chest press and hip thrust. Together they cover push, pull and legs for full-body coverage.
How heavy should I lift to build muscle after menopause?
The last two to three reps of each set should feel hard, not painful or impossible. If you can do 12 reps and feel like you could keep going, add two to five pounds.
How many days a week should women in menopause strength train?
Three days a week, 30 to 45 minutes per session, alternating two workouts of three exercises each. Nikkiey says muscles grow during recovery, so the four rest days are when the growth happens.
Will chest presses make my chest bigger?
No. Nikkiey explains that the chest press works the pectoral muscles underneath the breast tissue, which adds firmness and lift without adding size.
What if I don't have heavier dumbbells at home?
Slow the movement down with tempo training: take three seconds to lower, hold the bottom for one second, then take three seconds to press back up. Nikkiey says this can make a 15-pound dumbbell feel like a 25.
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Nikkiey: If you're going through menopause and you've been walking, doing yoga, following along with the YouTube cardio videos, and your body still isn't changing, it's because none of those are doing the one thing your body actually needs right now. You need to build muscle, and you don't need 20 exercises to do it. You need six. I've coached over 100,000 women through menopause, and the ones whose bodies actually changed all did these same six movements. Nothing else comes close. So today I'm going to show you exactly what they are, how to do them, how heavy to go, and how to put them into a weekly program that you can start this week.
Let's get into it. Here's what nobody explained to you when menopause started. Before menopause, estrogen was quietly maintaining your muscle mass behind the scenes. You didn't have to think about it. Estrogen supported muscle protein synthesis, the process your body uses to build and maintain muscle tissue. It worked for you 24 hours a day without you doing a single thing. After menopause, that support is gone, and you're now losing muscle at roughly 1% per year.
That might not sound like a lot, but think about what that actually means. At 50, you have less muscle than you did at 45. At 55, less than at 50. Every year your body is getting softer, your metabolism is getting slower, and the things that used to work, walking more, eating less, are producing less and less return, because the engine that drives your metabolism is shrinking.
And here's the part that makes it worse. The scale doesn't change. You weigh the same, but your body looks completely different. That's because muscle is being replaced by fat. Same weight, different composition, different shape. And no amount of walking or calorie cutting will reverse that. The only thing that reverses it is building the muscle back.
Here's why that matters for you and what you do in the gym. Cardio burns calories while you're doing it. The second you stop, the burn stops. Muscle burns calories 24 hours a day. Every pound of muscle you build is raising your metabolism permanently. Not during the workout, not for an hour after, all day, every day. That's why these six exercises are not optional. They are the only thing that actually reverses what menopause is doing to your body. And if you're not doing them, everything else you're doing in the gym is just a band-aid.
Every exercise in this video is a compound movement. That means it works multiple muscle groups at the same time. A squat doesn't just work your legs; it works your quads, your glutes, your hamstrings and your core all in one movement. A row doesn't just work your back; it works your back, your biceps and your rear shoulders. That's the whole strategy. You don't need 15 exercises. You don't need a different workout every day. You need six movements that cover your entire body. Push, pull, legs. And you need to get progressively stronger at them over time.
Most women going through menopause are spending their gym time on things that don't build muscle. Arm circles with two-pound dumbbells. Tricep kickbacks with a resistance band. Bodyweight-only workouts from YouTube. These feel like exercise, but they're not creating enough stimulus for your body to build new muscle tissue. Your body adapted to that level of resistance years ago. There's nothing left for it to respond to.
The push, pull, legs framework covers every major muscle group in your body with zero redundancy. Two pushing movements hit your chest, shoulders and triceps. One pulling movement hits your back and your biceps. Three lower body movements hit your quads, hamstrings, glutes and your core. Six exercises. Full body coverage. Nothing wasted.
Here's what I want you to notice as we go through these. Every exercise I'm about to show you can be done with dumbbells. You don't need a gym membership. You don't need machines. You need a set of dumbbells, a bench or a sturdy chair, and that's it.
This is the foundation. If you do nothing else on this list, this is the one that I tell you to do. Legs, glutes, your core, everything starts with the squat. So hold one dumbbell at your chest with both hands, elbows pointing down, feet slightly wider than shoulder width, toes turned out just a little bit. Push your hips back and sit down like you're lowering yourself into a chair. Keep your chest upright. If your chest drops forward, the weight is pulling you down. Go as low as you can while keeping your heels on the floor. Then drive through your heels to stand back up and squeeze your glutes at the top.
If you've never squatted with weight before, start with a 10 to 15 pound dumbbell. That's it. Don't worry about looking strong on day one. Worry about learning the movement. Within four to six weeks, most women are holding 25 to 35 pounds and wondering why they waited so long.
Why is this better than leg press machines or bodyweight squats? The goblet squat forces your core to stabilize the weight, which means your abs are working the entire time. The leg press takes your core out of the equation. Bodyweight squats don't create enough resistance to trigger muscle growth after the first couple of weeks. You need external load. That dumbbell at your chest is what makes the difference.
So here's how you know the weight is right. The last two to three reps of each set should feel hard. Not painful, just hard. Like you have to focus. Like you couldn't do five more. If you finish your set and you feel like you could keep going, the weight is too light. Three sets of 10 reps. When you can do 12 reps without struggling on the last few, then go heavier. That's the rule for every exercise in this video.
This is what gives you your hamstrings and your glutes back. The entire back of your body, the part that changes the most during menopause, this is the exercise that rebuilds it. Stand with a dumbbell in each hand, arms hanging in front of you, slight bend in your knees. Not a full bend, just enough to unlock them. Now hinge at your hips. Push your hips straight back like someone has a rope tied around your waist and they're pulling you backwards. Let those weights slide down the front of your legs, and you should feel a deep stretch in your hamstrings, the back of your thighs. Once the weight reaches about mid-shin, squeeze your glutes and drive your hips forward to stand back up.
The most important thing here is that your back stays flat the entire time. If your back rounds, stop. The weight is either too heavy or you're hinging too fast. Think about keeping your chest proud and your shoulder blades pulled together. Imagine that you're trying to show someone the logo on the front of your shirt the entire time.
This exercise is specifically important during menopause for three reasons. First, your posterior chain, your glutes, your hamstrings and your lower back, is the muscle group that deteriorates the fastest with age and declining estrogen. The RDL directly targets all of it. Second, strong glutes and hamstrings protect your lower back. Most lower back pain in women over 60 isn't a spine problem. It's a weak glute problem. Your glutes aren't doing their job, so your lower back picks up the slack and everything breaks down. Third, the RDL builds the shape that menopause takes away. The flatness in the back of your legs, the loss of definition in your glutes. This is the exercise that will reverse it. Three sets of 10 reps.
But here's what most women get wrong about lower body training during menopause, and it connects directly to the next exercise.
This is where your posture changes and your waist starts to look smaller. That's not an exaggeration. Building your back muscles creates that visual illusion of an hourglass shape, because the wider your back gets, the narrower your waist appears by contrast.
Dumbbell in each hand. Hinge forward at your hips, the same hip hinge that you learned in the Romanian deadlift, about a 45-degree angle. Let the weight hang straight down from your shoulders. Now pull your elbows towards your hip bones. Not towards your shoulders, towards your hip bones. Squeeze your shoulder blades together at the top like you're trying to pinch a pencil between them. Then lower with control. Don't let that weight drop.
Most women skip upper body entirely. They do legs, they walk, maybe some abs, and their upper body never changes. Your back, your shoulders, your arms. These are the muscle groups that change how you look in a tank top, how you carry yourself, how your clothes fit across your shoulders. If you're only training legs, you're only changing half of your body.
Here's what changes first. When a woman starts doing rows consistently, within three to four weeks her posture shifts. She stands taller. Her shoulders pull back instead of rolling forward, that forward hunch that creeps in after years at a desk or driving or looking at a phone. And that posture change is visible before the muscle definition shows up. People will notice something looks different about you before you even see the muscle. Do three sets of 10 reps of this exercise.
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Shoulders and triceps. This is the one that changes how your arms look in a sleeveless top. The back of your arms, the shape of your shoulders. This is where it all happens. Sit or stand with a dumbbell in each hand at shoulder height, palms facing forward. Press the weight straight overhead until your arms are fully extended. Don't let them drift forward or out to the sides. Keep them straight up, and lower them back to shoulder height with control. That's one rep.
Watch your lower back on this one. If your back starts arching, the weight is too heavy. Your core should stay tight and your ribs should stay down. If you can't press the weight without arching, then you have to drop to a lighter dumbbell. There's no shame in pressing 8 or 10 pounds with perfect form. That's building your muscle. Pressing 20 pounds with a banana-shaped spine is building an injury.
Strong shoulders change the entire shape of your upper body. They create width across the top of your frame, which makes your waist look narrower. They fill out the cap of your shoulders, where most women have a slope. And the pressing motion works your triceps, the back of your arms, which is the area most women ask me about more than any other body part. Bat wings, the jiggle, the part that waves when you wave. This exercise is the fix. Three sets of eight reps.
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Chest, shoulders and triceps. And no, I already know what you're thinking. This isn't going to make everything bigger. The chest press builds some muscle underneath, which improves the shape and the firmness of the entire area. This is the exercise that most women skip, and it's one of the most important for your upper body.
Lie back on a flat bench with your feet planted firmly on the floor. Hold a dumbbell in each hand at chest level with your elbows at about a 45-degree angle away from your body, not flared straight out to the sides. Press those dumbbells straight up over your chest until your arms are fully extended, then lower the weight down with control until your elbows come just below bench level. Then press back up and squeeze your chest at the top.
The reason women skip this exercise is the myth that chest training will change their chest size. It won't. The chest press targets your pectoral muscles, which sit underneath the breast tissue. Building those muscles creates firmness and lift. It doesn't add size. It improves the structure underneath. Think of it like putting a better foundation under a house. The house doesn't get bigger. It looks better because it's supported.
This exercise also hits your triceps, the back of your arm, from a different angle than the overhead press. So between those two exercises, you're covering the triceps from both directions. That's why most women who do both of these consistently are the ones who see the fastest change in their arm definition. So do three sets of eight to ten reps of this exercise.
Glutes. This is the one that reverses what menopause did to your shape below the waist. If you've noticed that your body has gone flat through the back, less shape, less lift, less definition in your glutes, the hip thrust is how you're going to build it back.
Sit on the floor with your upper back resting against a bench or a sturdy couch or a box. Your feet are flat on the floor, knees bent at about 90 degrees. Place a dumbbell across your hip crease, right where your legs meet your torso. Hold it in place with both hands, drive through your heels and push your hips toward the ceiling. Squeeze your glutes hard at the top. Your body should form a straight line from your shoulders to your knees. Hold for a second, and lower back down with control.
Here's something most women don't know. Strong glutes reduce knee pain. Most knee pain in women over 40 isn't actually a knee problem. It's a glute problem. When your glutes are weak, your knees take on extra stress during walking, climbing stairs, even standing up from a chair. Every time your glutes don't fire properly, your knee absorbs the force instead. So you build your glutes, and your knees start feeling better. I've seen this happen hundreds of times.
What do three months of consistent hip thrusts look like? More shape through the glutes and your hamstrings. Your clothes are going to fit differently below the waist. Less knee and lower back discomfort, and a noticeable difference when you catch yourself in a mirror from the side. This is one of the fastest exercises to show visible results, because the glutes are a large muscle group. When they grow, you're going to see it quickly. So do three sets of 12 reps of this exercise.
Now here's how you put it all together. You don't need all six exercises every workout. You can split them up into two workouts. Workout A: goblet squat, bent over row, overhead press. Workout B: Romanian deadlift, chest press, hip thrust. And you alternate them. Monday is A, Wednesday is B, Friday is A, and so on. Three days a week. That's the program.
Why split them instead of doing all six every session? Because six compound exercises in one workout is too much volume. You'd be in the gym for over an hour. Your form would break down by exercise four, and your recovery would suffer. Three exercises per session keeps each workout to 30 to 45 minutes, keeps your form sharp, and lets you push harder on each movement because you're fresh.
Now, why is three days enough? Because your muscles don't grow during the workout. They grow during the recovery. The workout is a stimulus. It tears the muscle fibers down. Rest days are when your body rebuilds them stronger. If you're training six days a week, you're tearing down more than you're building back. Three lifting days gives you the stimulus. Four recovery days gives you the growth.
On your off days, walk. Not for the calorie burn; walking burns minimal calories. Walk for your recovery, for your mood, for your insulin sensitivity, for sleep quality. 7,000 to 10,000 steps. That's active recovery, not exercise, and there's a difference. You don't need to live in the gym. Three days, 30 to 45 minutes per session, these six exercises. That's the program.
Here's the part that separates the women who transform their bodies from the women who look exactly the same six months from now: progressive overload. Progressive overload means gradually lifting heavier so your muscles keep growing. Your body is so adaptive, it only changes when it has to. If you're pressing the same 10-pound dumbbells today that you were pressing six months ago, your body adapted to that weight months ago. There's no reason for it to change. You have to give it a reason.
The rule is simple. If you can do 12 reps of an exercise and you feel like you could do more, the weight is too light. Go up. Add two to five pounds. That next session will feel harder. The last few reps will challenge you. That's the point. The challenge is the signal that tells your body to build more muscle.
Now you might be thinking, but I don't have heavier weights at home. Slow the movement down. Instead of pressing the weight up in one second, take three seconds to lower it, hold the bottom for one second, then take three seconds to press it back up. That's called tempo training, and it makes a 15-pound dumbbell feel like a 25. Same weight, dramatically more time under tension, which is what actually triggers muscle growth.
Now you might be thinking, how heavy is heavy enough? The last two to three reps of every set should feel hard. Not impossible, not painful, but hard. Like you have to focus and push. If you're coasting through every rep, you're maintaining what you have. You're not building anything new. This is the biggest mistake I see women going through menopause make. They find a comfortable weight and they stay there forever. Comfortable doesn't create change. Progressive challenge creates change. And the women who understand this are the ones whose bodies transform.
I want to tell you about Johanna, because when she came to us, she was the woman this video was made for. Johanna is 62. She had two total knee replacements. She'd been through upheavals in her personal life that brought her to the heaviest weight she's ever been. She didn't know what to eat. She didn't know how to exercise without guessing. She was doing the thing that most women do: trying different things, hoping something would stick, quitting when it didn't work in three weeks, and starting something else. And every year, her body moved further from where she wanted to be.
She described the biggest change as taking the guesswork out of everything. She didn't have to wonder what to eat. She didn't have to wonder which exercises to do. She didn't have to figure it all out herself. For the first time, she had a plan that was built for her, for her knees, for her age, for her goals. And all she had to do was follow it.
Two total knee replacements, and she's been lifting. Think about that. Most women, after one knee replacement, would assume they can't do this. Johanna had two, and she's building muscle at 62. She said she feels stronger and more self-confident than she's ever been, even since her 20s. 62 years old, and in the best shape of her life. What she said that stuck with me is that this gave her confidence in herself and connections with other women who are going through the same thing. She knows she's going to keep going. It's not a phase for her anymore. It's who she is.
If Johanna can do this at 62 after two total knee replacements, you can too. These are the same six movements, the same program. You don't need to be an athlete. You just need to start.
Here's your checklist. Six exercises: goblet squats, Romanian deadlifts, bent over rows, overhead press, chest press, hip thrust. Three days a week, 30 to 45 minutes. Go heavier when it gets easy. You don't need more exercises. You don't need a new routine every week. You need to do these six consistently and push yourself harder than you think you're allowed to.
You are not too old to build muscle. Your body is not past the point of change. It's waiting for a reason to change, and these six exercises are the reason.
If you want to see the two exercises that fix your back and your arms after 40, watch this next video. I break down exactly how to do them and why nothing else works. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you in the next video.
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