57 minHow to Build Confidence and Rewrite Limiting Beliefs
With Jennifer Joy Jimenez
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Jennifer Joy Jimenez
Jennifer Joy Jimenez is the founder of the health and well-being division at Brave Thinking Institute, a former professional dancer, speaker, trainer and coach who has coached thousands of women worldwide and created the conscious dance practice TranscenDance.
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Ep. 212: How to Build Confidence and Rewrite Limiting Beliefs
Nikkiey Stott sits down with Jennifer Joy Jimenez, founder of the health and well-being division at Brave Thinking Institute, to talk about resilience, confidence and why so many women lose themselves while taking care of everyone else. Jennifer shares how she went from professional dancer to burned-out sales job, living on peanut M&Ms and Diet Coke, to rebuilding her health, her marriage and her business. She is turning 50 next year and says she is healthier than she has ever been.
The heart of the conversation is how change actually happens. Jennifer explains that thoughts drive behavior and subconscious beliefs drive thoughts, so changing behavior alone rarely lasts. She walks through noticing what you're noticing, finding the pause button on your inner critic, treating yourself the way you would defend a best friend, and what to do when old stories creep back in, whether you've stopped doing the practices that worked or you've hit what she calls your upper limit.
She also describes transformation as installing a new operating system through repetition and immersion, shares the story behind her conscious dance practice, TranscenDance, and closes with the message she most wants you to hear: you are whole as you are right now, and confidence is something you cultivate from where you currently stand, not something that arrives when you hit a number on the scale.
- Changing your behavior alone rarely sticks, because your actions are driven by your thoughts and your thoughts are driven by your subconscious beliefs.
- When a belief like needing to be a certain size to be loved shows up, ask where you picked it up, then pull that weed and plant a new belief in its place.
- Start by noticing what you're noticing, then find an internal pause button and refuse to talk to yourself in a way you wouldn't talk to your best friend.
- Treat your longing and discontent as signals that something is ready to grow, and ask what you would love if time, money, age and support were no issue.
- If old stories come back, check whether you've stopped the reading, journaling or coaching that was working, or whether you've simply hit your upper limit.
In Jennifer's words
Common questions
Why do I keep falling back into old negative thoughts about my body?
Jennifer explains that it's usually one of two things: you've stopped doing what was working, like reading, journaling or getting coaching, and the outside messaging has seeped back in, or you've hit your upper limit and your internal thermostat is pulling you back to the old familiar patterns.
How do I stop negative self-talk?
First notice what you're noticing so you can actually hear the voice in your head, then find an internal pause button to interrupt the broken record. Jennifer suggests asking whether you would say those words to your child, pet or best friend, and becoming your own inner defender and coach.
How long does it take to really change your mindset?
Jennifer says that for a real overhaul of your way of being, it's typically a minimum of 12 to 24 months of repetition through coaching, combined with immersive experiences like retreats that create a strong emotional impact.
Why doesn't just changing my habits work?
According to Jennifer, behavior is driven by thoughts and thoughts are driven by subconscious beliefs, so if you only change the behavior without looking at the belief underneath, you won't get a lasting new result.
What is TranscenDance?
It's Jennifer's conscious dance practice, which she describes as a moving meditation with music, breath and movement. Her classes are live and virtual on Zoom, and she says they work for all mobility levels, including in a chair or in bed.
Where does real confidence come from?
Jennifer says confidence doesn't come from hitting a dollar amount or a weight number. It's a cultivated energy that starts with loving yourself right where you are now.